So... today was the day we went public. The following has been emailed to friends and family (most of whom already knew), people at church, and has been posted on Facebook.
Family and Friends,
excuse this coming in an email/Facebook post, but it seemed the most efficient way
to reach everyone; we wanted to share some exciting family news about
our child Crispian.
you may or may not know, Crispian has had some issues with depression
over the last year or so, but we have now learned that there is a
reason behind it- Cris is transgender: she is a girl.
you can imagine, when Cris first shared this news with us, it was
quite a shock, but after educating ourselves and speaking to
therapists, doctors and other professionals, we have become convinced
that Cris is indeed a transgender female and that living life as a
male has been the source of much of Cris’s depression and distress.
We have affirmed Cris’s female identity and are using female
pronouns for Cris at home. Since receiving this affirmation Cris’s
depression is much improved and she is now a much happier teenager.
started hormone replacement therapy about three months ago and is
just beginning her transition to present to the world as her true
female identity. You may not notice much change at this stage, but
she has asked us to request that everyone use female (she/her)
pronouns when referring to her from now on, though she will be
sticking with “Cris” as her name.
has been an emotional, unusual time in our lives, but we are proud of
Cris for hanging on during the darkest days of her depression when
she felt most out-of-place in her body, and for having the courage to
share with us what she has been going through. We are thankful for
the support we have already received from family, friends, many
professionals, and Cris’s school, and look forward to a future we
could never have imagined with nervous excitement.
know many of you will have questions, and if so, we encourage you to
contact us. We expect and hope you
will be supportive
and kind to Cris (and
through this transition.
And if you cannot be,
please respect our wishes and
say nothing at all.
love and support for Cris
We hope yours will be also.
& Jackie Thorne
So far the response has been overwhelming positive :) Fingers crossed it stays that way!